To My Daughter





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Let’s get one thing out of the way right now: you are pretty. 

Half of the people on this planet are female and all of them possess an inherent beauty in their features.  Even when scarred by disease or dangerous accident a woman is a beautiful creation of God. 
 
Some women are prettier than others.  In your life, my dear daughter, there will be women who are prettier than you.  You will be prettier than others.  This is nothing to be ashamed of, nor is it really anything to brag about.  It is a blessing from God.  Just be thankful and gracious to others no matter where they fall on the spectrum.

You are your mother’s daughter and therefore will probably be on the end of the spectrum that leans toward the prettier.  (You don’t know who many times random strangers have stopped your mother and told her that she is the “most naturally beautiful woman” they have seen.)  

But, also because you are your mothers daughter (and because you are mine) you will probably be a late bloomer.  This means that the boys in your junior high, or your high school, and maybe even in your college will not see your beauty until it is too late for them.  While some will peak at 18 or 21, your beauty will grow with each passing year.

And the boys will miss out.  And that is ok, because in this world you can’t afford to be messing around with the boys.  You will need a man at your side as times become more turbulent. 

Speaking of men, finding a man worthy of spending his life loving you might be difficult.  More and more the boys of our day are refusing to grow up, or if they do grow up it is too late to worry about starting a family. 
Finding a man who has not tainted his mind with pornography or tainted his body with drugs or other people will be a challenge.  You will have to be patient, and when the right guy comes along, you might have to be a little pushy.  

There are no perfect men in the world.  There never have been.  So don’t wait around for one.  But don’t lower your standards either.  Nothing brings out the goodness in a man like the goodness in a woman.
Repentance is a manly thing.  It is worth a lot of other preferences.  If you can find a man who may have done some pretty crazy, and even awful, things in his past, but he is repentant, he seeks forgiveness from his Lord and Savior, that is a keeper.

Another thing about men: you don’t need to be one.  You are a girl, growing into a young woman.  That is what God created you to be and there is no higher being on God’s green earth.  Whatever endeavors you enter into, no matter what other “jobs” you may undertake, know for sure that there is nothing more precious than bringing another life into this world.  Only women can do that.

Don’t be afraid to demand to be treated like the lady that you are.  No boy or man should treat you like anything less.  And if he does, do not marry him.  Get rid of him.  I’ll help if you want me to.  So will your 4 brothers.
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The world is changing, and you are too.  You are growing more beautiful with each passing day, just like your mother.  You will be a beautiful woman, and you deserve to have a good man at your side.  May God bless you with all that He has to give.

With All My Love,
Your Father

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